One big misconception that we all have about disagreements with our significant other is that not saying anything will make us feel better and will end the argument or conflict. However, that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
Every time we purposely keep quiet in the name of LOVE we are planting the seed of discontent in our relationship. Discontent grows into resentment, and one day it will come out when you least expect it.
Instead of shutting down and thinking that not speaking about it will make it go away is to let your partner know you time to process your thoughts and feelings. If your spouse or partner is reasonable, they will understand and will give you the space you need.
- The key to success is to convey the message without accusing or using ultimatums and most importantly to explain your position and how it affects you and the relationship.
- Just keep in mind silence is usually misunderstood, but can be easily accepted if we communicate our need to take a minute to sort things out.
Consequently, if you love the person, you are with and want to have a lasting relationship do not stay quiet and grow dissatisfied. Allow yourself to be heard and loved by your partner by opening up and discussing those problematic topics in a way you both will improve from it into a secure and robust relationship.